| p>Your fiancé will meet other Russian women | | | | experiencing. |
| who are coming to America under fiancé | | | | Even though you are patient and explain everything |
| visas. She will meet them at her English classes in her | | | | to her in the best way you can, she will trust and |
| native country before she leaves. | | | | understand the members of her Emigrant's Club in a |
| She will be introduced to other women at the | | | | way you will not understand. |
| marriage agency that are coming to America. | | | | They are explaining America to her through Russian |
| She will meet them through relatives or | | | | eyes - much as I am trying to explain Russia and |
| acquaintances, who introduce them to other women | | | | Russian women to you through American eyes. |
| coming to America that they have heard about | | | | Helping her get through these rough spots will be the |
| through the grapevine. | | | | positive side of the Emigrant's Club. However, there |
| She will meet women at the embassy when she | | | | are negative sides as well. |
| goes to take her medical exam and her interview. | | | | She will compare you and your actions, assets, |
| When she comes to America, your fiancé will | | | | income, job, and life style with her Russian friends |
| probably enroll in English classes at the local adult | | | | and their husbands. These Russian women exchange |
| school. If there are any other Russian-speaking | | | | experiences with each other in details that might |
| women there, they will become fast friends. | | | | embarrass you. |
| How the Club Forms: | | | | If you are miserly, they will know. If you make less |
| You will get calls from American men you don't | | | | money than her friend's husbands, they will know. If |
| know, who have heard through friends of friends | | | | you come up a little short in the marriage bed, they |
| that you have a Russian fiancé or wife, and | | | | will know. |
| they are in the process of looking or bringing over a | | | | The intimate details of your life will be paraded |
| fiancé from Russia. When their | | | | through conversations traveling through the |
| fiancés arrive in America, they will frequently | | | | grapevine at mach speed. If you are lacking, it will |
| become intimate with your fiancé. | | | | become readily apparent to your fiancé in a |
| Friends of yours, hearing that you have a Russian | | | | very short period of time. |
| fiancé, will give your phone number to other | | | | Telephone, Telegraph, Tell A Russian Woman: The |
| Russian people that they have met. | | | | Three Fastest Modes of Communication: |
| Your fiancé will go to public places where she | | | | Personally, I just keep my mouth shut. I don't say |
| may overhear Russian being spoken. While she would | | | | anything that I don't want someone else to hear, |
| never do this in her country, she may speak up and | | | | because they will. |
| say hello to them because they share a common | | | | They share everything. |
| language in a strange land. | | | | My wife took her girlfriend to the jewelry store |
| This eclectic group becomes an informal Emigrant's | | | | where we bought our wedding rings and where I |
| Club. Your fiancé will grab onto these | | | | have purchased some jewelry for her for special |
| strangers like a drowning sailor to a floating life buoy. | | | | occasions. |
| This Emigrant's Club will be one of her survival tools. | | | | One time, my wife and I had a big argument. When |
| She will talk to them to hear the comfort of Russian | | | | my wife went to the jewelry store, the man at the |
| words being spoken. While everything around her | | | | jewelry store knew about it from her friend. |
| seems strange to her, she will have things explained | | | | So, a word to the wise, I wouldn't say or do |
| to her in a way that she understands. | | | | anything that you don't want the world to know |
| The Emigrant's Club Is Another Tool To Making Her | | | | about, because they will. |
| Feel Comfortable Here: | | | | There are three modern forms of rapid |
| I encourage you to help her develop her Emigrant's | | | | communication: Telegraph, Telephone, and Tell a |
| Club, as this will make it easier for her adjust to her | | | | Russian Woman. |
| new life and will reduce the Culture Shock she is | | | | |