| If you change the way you look at things, the things | | | | you want to live or keep you stuck in the past? |
| you look at change. Wayne Dyer (1940-) Self-Help | | | | - Will the choice bring you long term gratification or |
| Advocate, teacher and author. | | | | just short term satisfaction? |
| Human nature tells us to keep on pushing on; run | | | | - Is the dream something you should do and |
| faster, do more, never give up, keep going, push, | | | | something that empowers you? |
| and push some more. One day you wake up and | | | | - What is calling you? |
| realize that the more you push the worse it gets. | | | | After a great deal of soul searching, we became |
| The paradox is that the harder we push the more | | | | clear that we wanted to take time of and live in a |
| resistance we encounter. We all know the definition | | | | different culture, travel the world and experience a |
| of insanity is "to keep on doing the same thing, | | | | simpler life together as a family. Beyond that, we |
| expecting a different result. | | | | weren't sure what we wanted to do. |
| If life overall or part of your life is not working, take | | | | 3. Giving up fears, limiting beliefs and shoulds. |
| the time to stop and assess if it is time to do | | | | - What fears are you going to have to walk through |
| something different. It is time to stop pretending, | | | | to create what you want? Are you willing? |
| stop pushing, and stop trying to fit a round peg into | | | | - What limiting beliefs are you going to have to |
| a square hole. Once you stop and analyze the | | | | change or manage to make a shift happen? |
| situation you will realize there are many options | | | | - What "shoulds" will you have to eliminate in your |
| available to you and at least one of them is worth a | | | | thinking? Are you willing to replace them with your |
| try. Either alone or with a partner, family member, | | | | dreams and desires? |
| friend or professional, write, discuss, and share what | | | | Many fears popped up for one of us as we made |
| is no longer working. Following are some questions to | | | | plans; fear of not having money, not having work, |
| talk about: | | | | and leaving what we knew. Every time they surfaced |
| 1. Identify what is no longer working for you (and | | | | we dealt with them and put them in their place. They |
| your family or partner). | | | | were simply fears that needed to be dealt with to |
| - What about your life is no longer working? Is it a | | | | move forward in life. |
| part of your life or the whole package? | | | | Learn about what it takes to make changes in your |
| - What about your life is working well? | | | | life Read books, listen to audio recordings and watch |
| - What is it you want to stop doing/ do more of/ | | | | motivational programs that will inspire you on your |
| less of/ differently? | | | | journey. Surround yourself with supporters and |
| In our journey we soon came to the realization that | | | | eliminate the negative ones. A couple of our favorite |
| being older parents of a newborn with two full-time | | | | books and CDs are: |
| professional all consuming careers and high expenses | | | | - Your Heart's Desire, Using the laws of Manifestation |
| we had accumulated to make our life work, was | | | | to Create the Life you Really Want, by Sonia |
| leading to depression, unhappiness, and exhaustion. | | | | Choquette - a sixth sensory look at how to create |
| What was working was our love for each other and | | | | what you want in life. |
| sense of adventure. We felt a passion for doing | | | | - Transitions, by William Bridges. A small classic on |
| something new and had the courage to take a risk. | | | | what happens as you go through a transition. |
| 2. Get clear on what you dream of doing differently | | | | - Personal Power and Awakening the Giant by Tony |
| - What is missing in your life that you want to | | | | Robbins. We have listened to the Personal Power |
| create? | | | | CDs over and over again. |
| - What are you fed-up or done with? | | | | Suzanne Saxe-Roux, Ed.D. |
| - How would you know you have achieved the | | | | Building leaders and profitable businesses while living |
| dream you want? How would you measure success? | | | | balanced lives. Certified Executive Coach, Author and |
| - Will the choice move you towards creating the life | | | | Speaker, Consultant, and Facilitator. |