| Living a life full of maximum happiness and minimum | | | | There are many more self-help concepts that exist |
| stress and problems with the ability to do what you | | | | which have similar flaws in them making them |
| want when you want is available to anyone who | | | | inoperable in your life. Yet millions of people keep on |
| follows the laws that govern success. Far too often | | | | doing them. Why? Because they have been told this |
| people simply do not have the right information | | | | is how you succeed and they want success so badly |
| available to them to make the correct decisions, | | | | they blindly accept that information. Even when they |
| which determines whether they fail, achieve | | | | aren't working, people will either try the same thing |
| mediocrity or zoom to the top in any field or | | | | over and over each time with renewed determination |
| endeavor. | | | | and vigor or they throw more money into the next |
| People start each new year off with a renewed | | | | seminar or book. The definition of insanity and been |
| desire to do better this year. It presents a chance to | | | | stated this way. "Doing what you've been doing |
| start over; to let go of the past; to make the | | | | expecting different results". There is a better, simpler |
| upcoming year better than the last; to achieve goals | | | | way. |
| that they haven't yet. Lose weight, get in shape, be | | | | For nearly a century we have been taught that we |
| nicer to the kids or spouse. Sell more. Earn more. | | | | have the power within us to do, have or become |
| Stop smoking. Stop swearing. Stop lying. Go to | | | | what ever we want. That this power is God given or |
| church more. The list is endless. It's a chance to start | | | | innate. It's true we do have that power. But where is |
| anew with determination and resolve to be better, to | | | | the switch? "Within!" comes the quick answer. That's |
| do better. At least that's the theory. | | | | true. Trouble is no one is able to tell you how to go |
| It's a plan that feels good and you hope that it will | | | | "within" to flip on the switch to that power. |
| work....but, alas, it doesn't. New years resolutions are | | | | Where is the switch to our God given power to do, |
| made to be ________. Why does everyone know | | | | have or become whatever we want? Where does |
| what goes in the blank? It's cause they have | | | | one get enthusiasm and discipline? Where is switch |
| mocked and joked about in the media, in cartoons | | | | the source of inner strength and self-motivation that |
| and late night talk shows AND they have | | | | keeps one hanging in there, persisting, constantly |
| experienced it themselves as it continues to | | | | learning truths and being totally determined to make |
| happening year after year. The same thing happens | | | | the necessary character and personality changes |
| with goal setting. Goals are diligently set for the | | | | required for the level of success they want? Where |
| month, the quarter, the year. They are sincerely | | | | is the switch to the inner drive and strength come |
| committed to, written down and maybe even read | | | | from to do that which is unpleasant, hard or way out |
| several times a day and then not attained time and | | | | of ones comfort zone? Where is the switch to the |
| time again. | | | | driving force that gives people the ability to pick |
| The word resolution implies that one is "resolute" | | | | themselves up after a painful failure? |
| about something. Some synonyms for the word | | | | Vital Ingredient That Flips On Your Switch. What is |
| resolute are determined.... | | | | this essential element that must be present before |
| adamant...resolved....immutable. A goal was identified, a | | | | your Conquering Force can kick in at full power and |
| decision was made and a resolution was committed | | | | cause you to achieve peak performance and high |
| to. If you made a resolution and then broke it, that | | | | levels of success? Maximum success in anything is as |
| simply means you weren't resolute, or determined or | | | | a direct result of this crucial ingredient being there. |
| committed to making it happen. If you only think you | | | | What is it? |
| are resolute about achieving something but really | | | | Core Desires. That's the answer. A Core Desire is the |
| aren't, you will start on the path to make it happen | | | | catalyst that MUST be present to maximize success |
| but it will only a matter of time before you give up | | | | in anything. A Core Desire is something you want so |
| and quit. That is what happens with most goals in | | | | badly it pierces you to the very core of your heart. |
| general. | | | | It is something you want with ALL your heart. Not |
| If done correctly your goals and aspirations will be | | | | half hearted. Not three quarters hearted. Whole |
| achieved but only if a certain, vital ingredient is there. | | | | hearted. It is the switch that unleashes the |
| If it is not there the dreams and aspirations are | | | | Conquering Force within all of us. It is what causes |
| destined to wither and die and failure is all that is left. | | | | teenagers to get drivers licenses and a car. It is what |
| For anyone who dreams of achieving a more | | | | causes us to learn and accomplish anything. Our |
| satisfied life, a very simple method exists. It is a | | | | Conquering Force can be used for good or evil. You |
| method that identifies the true cause of all | | | | have many Core Desires. One or more in each area |
| achievement in all areas of life. Even though it is the | | | | of life. |
| real cause of all success and achievement is regularly | | | | It's been taught, and rightly so, that you need |
| overlooked. Yet it is so critical that if overlooked, | | | | enthusiasm, discipline, persistence and self-motivation |
| failure is the automatic result. Every person who has | | | | to achieve success. This is true. However can those |
| achieved the pinnacle of success in any area of his or | | | | teaching this ultra basic and commonsensical |
| her life automatically has this ingredient and has used | | | | information tell you where to get these needed |
| this method for that. | | | | things if you don't have them? No. They can't. Unless |
| This ingredient and this method are not based on | | | | they say, "within" again. |
| what countless experts and gurus teach. They all | | | | Conquering Force. I combined the dictionary's |
| pretty much serve up the same old philosophies | | | | definition of the words Conquering and Force to get |
| based on goal setting, reading self-help books, doing | | | | this combined definition of Conquering Force: It is |
| daily affirmations and visualization, PMA, NLP, listening | | | | "....to act effectively in getting what one seeks by |
| to motivational speakers and subliminal messaging, | | | | overcoming all obstacles in your way through physical, |
| breaking boards, walking on hot coals, etc., etc. | | | | mental or moral force." In other words, you are |
| These so-called "keys" to success have all been | | | | completely willing to do whatever it takes to achieve |
| taught for most of the last century. In the hope of | | | | your Core Desire. Both Core Desires and the |
| finding happiness and success, billions of dollars and | | | | Conquering Force do, indeed, come from "within". |
| billions of hours have been spent on seminars and | | | | There is a problem though -- and it is why most don't |
| books and audio programs only to find they don't | | | | succeed like they'd like to. Many years ago Mark |
| work. You'd think that with all that money and time | | | | Twain said this, "I can teach anybody how to get |
| being spent on a vast array of self-help techniques | | | | what they want out of life. The problem is that I |
| and methodologies many more people would be | | | | can't find anybody who can tell me what they want." |
| achieving their dreams. But they aren't. To blindly | | | | Earl Nightingale observed a very similar thing. He said, |
| trust and accept the much-ballyhooed secrets of | | | | "Today in America people can become whatever |
| success will invariable lead to wrong decisions and, in | | | | they want. Trouble is, most don't know what they |
| far too many cases, wasted time and money. | | | | want." |
| There is a better, simpler way. | | | | I echo both of those men's observations. Most |
| Two Simple Questions: You should answer yes to | | | | people don't know how to identify their Core Desires |
| both of these questions: | | | | and that leaves their conquering force in neutral and |
| 1) Are you smart enough to learn what someone is | | | | unavailable to help them overcome obstacles. That's |
| willing to teach you? | | | | why I created my seminars and 10 CD audio program |
| 2) Do you believe the information that you need to | | | | and wrote the book The DNA of Success. They are |
| know to achieve the success you want already | | | | designed specifically to help people learn how to find |
| exists somewhere in a book, a class, a CD, a coach a | | | | their Core Desires, which will unleash their Conquering |
| minister or in a course of some kind? | | | | Force and cause them to achieve at the highest |
| If you answered yes to both of these then to | | | | levels possible. |
| achieve at the highest level you want in any area of | | | | Abraham Lincoln, who suffered many defeats in his |
| life all you have to do is find the catalyst, which you | | | | distinguished political career, said this: "Always bear in |
| provide from within yourself, that puts those two | | | | mind that your own resolution (Core Desire) to |
| things together. Is top performance and success | | | | succeed is more important than any other thing." |
| really that simple? Absolutely. And you will see why in | | | | That's still true today. |
| a moment. | | | | Try having enthusiasm about that which you don't |
| Goal Setting is the reigning king of all success | | | | like doing. You can't and no amount of goal setting or |
| techniques ever taught. Everyone is taught that if | | | | affirmations will change that. That's why it's critical to |
| you will write down your goals and read them daily | | | | identify your Core Desires. Doing what you love to |
| somehow they happen. That's just not true. My | | | | do always brings with it enthusiasm. |
| research shows that 8 out of 10 things a person | | | | Try to get the discipline to do something if you don't |
| writes on a goal list will never happen. Everyone has | | | | really want to. You can't -- and all the visualization and |
| goals they didn't finish and many they didn't even | | | | reading about it in how-to books will not give you |
| start on. | | | | discipline. Discipline comes from the root word disciple. |
| When a person buys into the idea of goal setting and | | | | A disciple is someone who willingly follows someone |
| observes week after week, month after month or | | | | or some system or regimen. If you willingly follow |
| year after year, that they are not achieving those | | | | someone or some system the discipline is automatic. |
| goals they almost always draw negative conclusions | | | | The operative word is willingly. If you are not willing |
| about themselves like: I must not have what it takes | | | | forget it. You won't do what it takes no matter who |
| or I am a failure. Any negative conclusions like that | | | | says you should, including yourself. |
| about yourself are just not true. Success has little to | | | | Measure It. Everything you want in this life can be |
| do with your failures, current abilities or skills. | | | | measured on a scale from 1 to 100. A 1 is something |
| If you have heard a motivational speaker in the last | | | | you would never do in a million years. A 50 is half |
| year or two answer this question: How long did you | | | | way there. Half hearted. Half hearted doesn't cut it - |
| stay motivated? Most people say: two days, `till I got | | | | in anything. Core Desires are the100s. |
| out of the parking lot, two weeks. The conclusion | | | | There are always obstacles between where you are |
| we must draw from that feedback from my | | | | and where you want to be. If the desire for the end |
| research and my audiences all over the world is that, | | | | result is a 70 on the scale you'll get 70% of the way |
| no matter how good, no matter how interesting, | | | | there. Any obstacle at 71 or higher will stop you |
| motivational speakers have no lasting affect. They | | | | permanently just like a dam does water. If the desire |
| are like going to a movie. They can make you laugh | | | | is a 90 on the scale you will get 90% of the way |
| or cry but then you go home and your life doesn't | | | | there. If it is not a Core Desire you'll spend money |
| change. They were great entertainment; had some | | | | and time and energy on it for a while but will fall |
| great ideas and maybe some right on concepts but | | | | short because, at some point, you will run into an |
| your life is still the same. | | | | obstacle at 71, 91 or higher which will stop you |
| Self-help books are plentiful. I wrote one. How many | | | | permanently. |
| do you have in your library? 1? 5? 20? 100? How | | | | An old Welsh Proverb says, "The hand will not reach |
| many does it take to be successful? Have you read | | | | for what the heart does not long for." |
| the book Think and Grow Rich? Most say, "Yes". | | | | There are no barriers at 100 on the scale. That's why |
| When asked, "Are you rich?" They say. "No". They | | | | nothing stops a Core Desire. Philosopher Eric Hoffer |
| got the "think" part down but the "grow rich" part | | | | said this: "It seems that intense desire creates not |
| didn't happen. Why not? The book must be faulty or | | | | only its opportunities but it's own talents." William |
| they are too dense to get it? Right? No! They are | | | | Hazlitt , also a wise philosopher, confirms this |
| not stupid. Neither are you. | | | | viewpoint. He says, "A strong desire for any object |
| If, after reading all these books, you still aren't | | | | will insure success, for the desire of the end will point |
| achieving at the level you want should we draw the | | | | out the means." Anyone who succeeds at anything |
| conclusion that either you just couldn't grasp the | | | | does so because it is a Core Desire, at 100 on the |
| concepts being taught in the book or the books you | | | | scale. |
| read were full of misinformation. Of course neither of | | | | To identify a Core Desire ask yourself this simple |
| those is true. You are not dense nor, in most cases, | | | | question: What do I want that I am not getting? As |
| is the information wrong. Something is missing, that's | | | | soon as you know the answer then ask this question: |
| all. It's the ingredient alluded to at the beginning of | | | | If I had that what would it give me that I'm not |
| this article. | | | | getting? Keep asking "and what would that give me |
| Do you like people to lie to you? Of course not. Then | | | | that I'm not getting" and when you get to the "Core" |
| don't buy into the concept that lying to yourself is | | | | Desire you will always have some kind of an |
| acceptable or that it will make you successful. That's | | | | emotional experience. You may feel joy. You may |
| what the concept of daily affirmations asks you to | | | | feel tremendous assurance and have total confidence |
| do. "I weight 125 pounds." I Drive a Mercedes." "I am | | | | that you have hit the proverbial nail on the head. You |
| out of debt." If those things aren't the truth then | | | | may even start to tear up. Some burst into tears |
| what are they? lies. | | | | and cry. You may just breathe a deep sigh signifying |
| Supposedly your subconscious mind doesn't know the | | | | that, "Yes that's what I really want". You'll just know |
| difference between the truth and a lie. Even if that is | | | | when you get there. |
| true, your conscious mind sure does. Stating | | | | Once you discover a 100 on the scale of 1 to 100 |
| thousands of times that you are rich or that you are | | | | you will then motivated from within to learn |
| thin or have increased your sales by 25% or drive a | | | | whatever you need to learn. The easy part is finding |
| Mercedes, clashes immediately with your conscious | | | | the source of knowledge and wisdom specific to |
| mind because it knows better. Doing this exercise will | | | | your Core Desire. You will spend your money and |
| only cause you to waste time and create false hope. | | | | time far more wisely because you will only buy the |
| It has been said that your mind is like a | | | | book or CD program or go to the mentor or seminar |
| computer...garbage in garbage out - good stuff in | | | | that is specific to helping you reach your Core Desire. |
| good stuff out. That's just not true. Your mind is not | | | | This last truth will eliminate any negative labeling of |
| like a computer. Your mind is vastly different from a | | | | yourself if you are not achieving some "goal" you |
| computer because you have choice. You don't have | | | | have set. If you are not doing what it takes to |
| to spew out garbage just because it was put in. | | | | achieve a goal it is an indication that is not a 100 on |
| Conversely, good information put into your mind | | | | the scale. It has nothing to do with your ability or |
| does not mean that good information will come out. | | | | intellect. You simply didn't want it badly enough. |
| Whether it does or doesn't is a matter of choice on | | | | Rudyard Kipling, Nobel Prize winning author said it this |
| your part. | | | | way, "If you do not get what you want it is a sign |
| So don't do daily affirmations. They are an exercise in | | | | that you did not seriously want it." |
| futility and teach you to be a bold faced liar. You | | | | Launch the New Year with this new understanding of |
| may feel good that you are supposedly | | | | what it really takes to be successful and you will be |
| "programming your mind" but that is simply not the | | | | amazed at how much happiness and success will be |
| case. You are merely lying to yourself. | | | | yours in the year 2009 and beyond. |