| You meet a guy, you hit it off, things get serious and | | | | can't track their phone activities. |
| before you know it, you've made a life together: | | | | 2) Joint accounts are easy pickings to check what |
| marriage, a house, children! You're feeling pretty good | | | | your partner is up to. Most cheaters won't be stupid |
| about the whole set up and things appear to be | | | | enough to pay for a meal they shared with their |
| simmering along pretty well between you. Then one | | | | lover with the joint account credit card, because |
| day, out of nowhere, you feel like things have | | | | when the statement arrives, there will be the |
| changed. What do you do? How do you gather | | | | evidence for you to see. But still, it is worth a look to |
| together evidence to find out for sure if your partner | | | | see if they have left any clues as to where money is |
| is cheating on you? | | | | being spent. |
| Pretty much some women will simply ignore their | | | | Instead, some calculated and determined cheaters go |
| suspicions for a period of time. They will find | | | | as far as setting up a bank account specifically to |
| themselves deep in that whole denial phase and carry | | | | wine and dine and bed their lover. Even with this |
| on like nothing is wrong. Some women will ask their | | | | situation you can go to work and discover what |
| partner straight out and be up front, the second | | | | might be going on. Assuming you know how much |
| they even suspect their partner is cheating on them. | | | | your partner earns, compare how much money goes |
| If their partner denies any wrong doing, some | | | | into the account and how much leaves the account? |
| women again accept this and move on, while with | | | | Where is it going? Can you account for it with the |
| others suspicions abounds and they will stop at | | | | withdrawals, bill payment slips, other legitimate |
| nothing until their fears are proved. | | | | expenses. Are there regular sums of money for |
| The initial red herrings can be as varied and diverse | | | | which there is just no paper trail? |
| as the people involved in the situation. Perhaps your | | | | 3) Start taking note of the mileage on his car |
| partner has begun to spend more time grooming and | | | | odometer. Find out the distance between home and |
| taking care of his appearance? He may even become | | | | his place of work. Take into consideration things like |
| more attentive towards you and yes, you love this | | | | going out to lunch, slight detours for road works etc., |
| new found attention you're getting and you relish it! | | | | trips to the dentist or whatever may come up in a |
| He may even start taking a lot more impromptu | | | | regular innocent routine and factor those occurrences |
| business trips! Whatever the signals, you will get to | | | | in. If there are vast differences in the mileage he |
| the point where you will want to know one way or | | | | should be doing and what the odometer actually says |
| the other, just what is going on, pretty sure by this | | | | he's doing, consider it suspicious and perhaps telling. |
| point, that your partner is cheating on you. | | | | 4) There will come a point, when an overnight trip will |
| Be clear, are you ready to find out for sure? If there | | | | be planned and the excuse of a business trip will be |
| is something going on and you find out, this | | | | used. Subtly find out all the information you can |
| discovery could change your life, your children's lives: | | | | about this 'business trip' i.e. which city, which hotel, |
| this could end your relationship or seriously undermine | | | | how long he'll be away and do your checks. Find out |
| it. Are you ready for that? Saying yes you are, is | | | | if there is a trade show in town that is relevant to |
| easy and flippant. Adult actions, demand adult | | | | his work. Call his work to find out if they know about |
| reactions! | | | | this trip, be subtle here, use some care you want to |
| Here are four techniques you can use to find out if | | | | be armed with facts, not make him know that you're |
| your partner is cheating on you. | | | | onto him. |
| 1) If your partner suspects that you might be onto | | | | For anyone who has ever been cheated on by |
| him, he may do what is called "redial erase". What the | | | | someone they love, with whom they have built a life |
| cheater will do is punch in a random selection of | | | | and even have children, there is no doubt that it is a |
| numbers after calling his lover, so that you cannot | | | | painful and wounding ordeal. Your self-esteem is hit, |
| press the redial button to find out who they were | | | | your peace of mind is blown and your ability to trust |
| talking to. With mobiles, this is not as straight forward | | | | goes clean out the window. The strategies outlined |
| as with landlines, as the phones memory will store | | | | should not be used lightly. Your first port of call is to |
| the phone number. Determined cheaters simply erase | | | | talk to your partner. Try and find out rationally and |
| the call log in their mobiles. So, unless you have a | | | | calmly what might be going on. Tell him your |
| toddler in the house, if you hit redial and you get a | | | | suspicious, there maybe a perfectly innocent reason |
| number that makes no sense, be suspicious. | | | | for a sudden change in his behavior. But as I said |
| You should also be suspicious of the 2 sim car trick. | | | | previously, be aware that once you start down this |
| If you find another sim card in his pocket or sock | | | | path what you discover may change your life, and |
| draw, he has it for a reason. Remember the sim car | | | | your children's lives, forever. If you do decide to |
| stores MOST, not all, of a phones activity. Some | | | | employ any or all of the mentioned strategies, you |
| cheaters change sim cards so that their partners | | | | do so at your own risk. |