| You know how it is when normal people hate you. | | | | meant you were both really in tune with each other. |
| Most of the times, the signs are as about as subtle | | | | However, if you find yourself laughing alone a lot |
| as a brick in the face! It's pretty easy to tell when | | | | during your date, always explaining punchlines, or |
| someone hates your guts when they do things like | | | | finding humour where your date horror (or vice |
| refuse to make eye contact, use pepper spray on | | | | versa), you and your date are probably just too |
| you (ouch!), or they call the police and their | | | | different to be together and are probably going to |
| Doberman! However, unless there are glaciers | | | | have a hard time finding any sort of emotional |
| forming around the restaurant the you and your date | | | | common ground. |
| are in, the signs will not be as obvious. What is more | | | | 5) Physically not in sync. A body speaks volumes of |
| likely to happen on a date is a slow process of | | | | feelings. People who are interested and connected will |
| disconnection or a huge lack of chemistry that | | | | lean in toward each other or sit close to one another. |
| becomes more apparent as the night goes on instead | | | | However, if one body is constantly saying "I'm out of |
| of a dramatic, almost magnetic repulsion. Here are six | | | | here" or "Not interested" and remains aloof during the |
| warning signs that a date is becoming a disaster: | | | | date, it's a pretty safe bet that the head is thinking |
| 1) No eye contact. Eye contact is very important for | | | | the same thing. |
| connecting with someone, like "window to the soul" | | | | 6) Edgy, anxious, sad. A few nerves are okay, but if |
| of sorts. If your date won't make eye contact, | | | | your date is in an obvious state of emotional turmoil |
| chances are that nothing will connect. | | | | that doesn't seem to stop, it's a sign that your time |
| 2) Sullenness. If your date is unresponsive and says | | | | together is in the same state. Save yourself the |
| very little, stop a check to make sure that you are | | | | hassle and move on to the next person. |
| not dominating the conversation or asking too many | | | | If you have any of the above signs (or worse, more |
| personal questions. However, if your date constantly | | | | than one!) while on your date, chances are a second |
| responds with "Yeah", "No", and "Don't know", this is | | | | date will not be a good idea, so prepare yourself for |
| a pretty clear sign that things are not going very well. | | | | what is probably inevitable. It may be a bit of a bitter |
| This doesn't mean there will never be a gap of | | | | pill to swallow, but it shouldn't come as a surprise. I've |
| silence of a few seconds (see the dancing scene | | | | written another article about how to handle rejection, |
| with John Travolta and Uma Thurman in "Pulp | | | | so that may be something to have a look through as |
| Fiction"), but when the gaps can be timed with an | | | | well. |
| egg timer, something isn't working. | | | | Dating is a hard, almost unforgiving world to be in, |
| 3) The "I" focus. This is opposite to the above tip. If | | | | and it constantly amazes me when people would |
| your date's conversation is focused exclusively on | | | | rather have that than a stable, loving relationship. |
| him or herself without any noticeable interest in you, | | | | However, it also has its appeals, especially to younger |
| it's a sign that your date is not interested in you or | | | | people who are not interested in a permanent |
| too pre-occupied with him/herself. Is this someone | | | | relationship. The good thing about them is that there |
| you'd want to have a second date with anyway? | | | | are also a lot of people looking for the same thing. |
| 4) Emotionally not in sync. Have you ever had a date | | | | So if you are in the dating world, a bit of extra |
| with someone who totally "gets it"? Every joke, | | | | information can help. Good luck, play safe, play fair, |
| every nuance, every raised eyebrow? If so, that | | | | and most importantly, HAVE FUN! |